Ask DB: Should I Call Out My Stepson For Being a Cheater?
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions. Today’s question is Anonymous but is a Step-Parent is caught in a sticky situation:
Yo DB, I walked into a cafe yesterday with several girlfriends for lunch. I was shocked when I spotted my stepson and a woman I did not know. I walked over and said hello. He and his friend appeared nervous. My stepson has been dating another woman for two years. She wasn’t there. I came home and called my husband and my stepson’s father. He said that I shouldn’t say anything to his girlfriend and that it’s none of our business. He says we should stay out of it. I am outraged because that lunch may be cheating. Even if it’s not physical it’s still emotional. I feel I need to stand up for other women and say something to my stepson’s girlfriend. What would you do if you were me?
This one is tough because of lack of information. Sometimes when things happen we run on emotion first before logic so we need the facts when it comes to handling these things. Assuming it’s a young kid that’s high school age I would say that would be a time to sit down and talk. You and your husband need to clear the air and teach him the valuable lesson on how to handle relationships because if you don’t, he will be treating women incorrectly forever. Young men need direction in their lives and the internet will set the bad example. The father especially needs to lead the son on a respectful path. I was raised by my mother and grandmother, two strong women and so I just think how I would want a man to treat them. I would hate for anyone to treat them bad so why should I. Now you don’t want to go against the wishes of the biological parents, step-parents are truly in a rough spot when it comes to relationships and lines. So hopefully you have a good report to bring this up but avoid judgement and going in guns blazing. Projecting feelings on a growing kid can backfire and lead to further division and at the end of the day it’s about blending the family. You gotta have room to make mistakes and to learn. No one is born with all the right answers and if they are they should give it to me because I hate thinking so much.
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