Ask DB: I Don’t Even Know Her Last Name!
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions. Today’s question is…
Welcome to DB's Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce's advice guru your difficult questions. Today's question is from Mary Beth who is questioning her whole friendship:
I feel like such a clown writing this post but really need your advice. I’ve had a very close friend for the past 7 years. We’ve done loads of weekend trips, dinners, parties, etc. but it dawned on me last week I don’t actually know her last name. The reason this came up is that I’m planning a formal party and wanted to send my besties mailed invitations to fit the theme. When it comes to her however, I realized out of all the time we’ve known each other, I don’t know her last name. Tbh it’s just never come up in all the years we’ve known each other and all her socials are just joke names. Even when we’ve done trips, it’s always in first names. I feel like a huge jerk - how do I not know one of my best friend’s last names?! I feel like I can ask BUT I also don’t want to offend her if I ask as we’ve known each other for so long. I feel like such a jerk.. any advice would be really appreciated!
I understand not knowing important details. I describe my brain as a huge room with file cabinet. Each cabinet is filled with folders of all the info I know. When I try to recall them, the guy in my mind goes and searches for it in the right section but he is so slow and takes his time. Eventually he finds the file but it's usually when it's unneeded. Especially when it comes to remembering names this always seems to happen:
Oddly enough I've always thought this before this episode so Spongebob is full of great minds. Back to the point, this is why alot of times I call people "Bud" if I can't recall there names. But on the flip side I can tell you every detail of that Spongebob episode. Now for your last name situation there are a couple of options: Be Upfront! We get so nervous with hurting and offending we almost can make it worse with all the extra hoopla when you could just tell her you don't know it. It could be a running joke between friends growing you closer. You could also ask for the to verify their name an address so you don't spell it wrong when you send the invitation. Simple and accurate to the situation because the post office can have mistakes like that happen because of misspellings. Now to be fun and investigative you should pull out your ID when hanging out and say "Man I hate my id photo!" show your ID to your friend. And then says "I bet your photo is better" which will get them to show theirs to you. There you can take note of the last name and be covered without raising suspicion. It's sneaky but a smooth way to handle that. Friendship saved!
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