Ask DB: What Happens When A Blended Family Gets REALLY Blended?
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions, and today’s question…
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce's advice guru your difficult questions, and today's question is from Jim in Hope Mills who has an extremely uncomfortable situation:
"Mary, my step-daughter and my son Louis have been secretly dating for the past 2 years (or so they say). Mary and Louis have known each other since they were 4 and 3, respectively. Mary's mother and I met in a support group for widowers, and we bonded over the fact both lost our first spouses. We both legally adopted each and they call us mom and dad instead of step-dad or whatever. When they sat us down and told us about their secret relationship, I have to admit I was shocked and disgusted. A lot of things clicked into place, like the fact that neither of them dated in high school. They said it's only been two years, but I didn't believe them when they told us and I don't believe them now. I admit, both I and my wife said things we shouldn't have when they initially told us. They intend to get married sometime in the next few years and asked for our blessing, which we said we'd have to think about. Am I making too much of a deal out of this? Is it really wrong or am I being unreasonable?"
Here's DB's Advice:
You are really trying to make me work here huh. This is a doozy. On one hand, I do believe true love can come in the most surprising places. This is tough for any parent though especially when you raised both children essentially. Now family is everything and the fact that they told you is a blessing because finding this out when they post engagement photos would have sent your head spinning. You have every right to feel how you feel, it's a lot to ask. Now I will say you have to find a way to be ok with it, go to therapy for yourself. You don't want to lose your kids and potential grandchild. You can only control your reaction. And in some cases maybe this will end on it's own because you accepted it and they realized that they just liked the secretive nature of it or the fact that it is taboo. Not making any promises on that one though. They are not related by blood so that is a saving grace in a very weird case. At the end of the day you as a parent should be the person your children run to and trust to love them. I will be sending all the good vibes your way and again seek therapy because wow and same for your other son and wife. Not the most profound but even I can't solve all problems.
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After a 2 year wait, Season 3 of Bridgerton was dropped on Netflix and the fans old and new are obsessed. Unlike the previous two seasons and prequel mini-series, they split Season 3 into two parts and it seems to have paid off. The First Part of Season 3 gained 45 million views in its first week. And the all of the internet is talking about the steamy sweet romance between Colin Bridgerton & Penelope Featherington.
I'm a new Bridger-lover so I was blown away by the stolen glances, epic costumes, dramatic movements and amazing dialogue but I have to give credit to some of the modern connections with Bridgerton. They have really focused in on the most relatable things that you deal with in relationships (win money isn't a problem) and focus on all the fireworks. And I especially love the music because they have made orchestral versions of popular hit songs. And this season is no slouch.
The Carriage Ride Bop
Now the most talked about scene from the first part was the Carriage Ride scene. I can't post it because it gets very nsfw but I can set the mood...After years of denying his feelings, Colin chases down the carriage taking Penelope home and he professes his love. She has been the one waiting for this moment forever so they finally get out of the friend zone and proceed to kiss and get hot and heavy. The tune in the background is an amazing rendition of Pitbull ft. Ne-Yo, Afrojack & Nayer's hit: Give Me Everything.
Rihanna - Diamonds
Every season, Queen Charlotte picks her diamond: the most accomplished, most beautiful, and most eligible maiden on the marriage market. So every family is fighting for this and I feel like Rihanna would have instantly won that title. This song appeared on Season 2.
Taylor Swift - Wildest Dreams
Season one focused on the love story between Daphne & Simon the Duke. And so of course there love story and T-Swift can tremendously go hand in hand. Again if I posted the scene it appeared in we'd have to put a warning.
Miley Cyrus - Wrecking Ball
Season 2 was really a mess as Anthony & Kate fought their feelings for so long. When it comes to frustration and angst I know Miley is the vibe. This was so well done and sounds very close to the original.
Sia ft. Sean Paul - Cheap Thrills
Season 3 continued to kill it. When all the guests arrived to the Ball after Colin saved Penelope after the Hot Air Balloon mishap this song plays. The stakes were high for sure.
Maroon 5 ft. Cardi B - Girl Like You
Season 1 was really the intro to the world. After Daphne was selected as the diamond then next step is the eligible bachelors visiting to win over her heart. It's basically speed dating. So this song almost encompasses the whole show.
