Ask DB: Should Your Partner Still Have ‘Trophies’ From Past Relationships?
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions, and today’s question…
Does your partner have “trophies” from past relationships? What would you do?
Getty ImagesWelcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions, and today’s question is from Ally from Gray's Creek:
"My boyfriend and I just moved in together last weekend. I was unpacking yesterday when I found his ‘trophies’. If you don't know what that means, it means things he's kept from other women like bras, underwear and other things I can't mention. I laid his trophies out on the kitchen table so he would be sure to see them when he got home from work. He was shocked that I found them. I told him he needs to get rid of them. He looked confused. He says he doesn't want to get rid of his trophies because they are a part of his past. He says it's not a big deal and the same thing as keeping pictures of your exes. I disagree. I think trophies are much different than pictures. He said I'm insecure. Should guys be allowed to keep their trophies? Have I overstepped my bounds in telling him to get rid of his trophies?"
Here’s DB’s Advice:
This is giving...Dahmer. Ally, let's go ahead and get the number one thing you should realize out the way...This is serial killer vibes. Keeping other women's undergarments is a huge red flag. And one of our other Bounce Listeners brought up a big point. Do the other women know he kept that stuff? Gross behavior. Big thing is you need to run for the hills. Move back to whatever home you had. You have not overstepped. And no guy should be allowed to keep these things. I got a sneaking suspicion though you might stay in this relationship though. So I will prepare an alternate take. You should replace the old trophies with your own trophies. Take some of your undergarments and give it to him. That way you are the only trophy he needs. I don't think this will really work because clearly he wants those things. So just run...RUN.
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3 Restaurants You Might Miss If You’re From Fayetteville
Has there ever been a restaurant from your childhood that you miss dearly? I remember so many that have come and gone here in Fayetteville. I was born in Summer of 1988 and you could consider our town a small town in some ways. Growing up you had chains but also the local places are the standouts like McDonalds or Burger King but when you are a kid with no source of income alot of our good eating came from the buffet style.
The Pizza Hut Buffet is legendary. Unlimited pizza and salad all during lunch time kept us all happy. One Summer we had a Pokemon Card competition at Toys-R-Us but before we got there we stopped to Pizza Hut for the buffet. My grandmother was the one to always take us to these places while my mom worked and it would be my best friends Mark & Steven along with my brother and sister. My grandmother didn't need to cook for all these mouths and cmon now pizza is legendary! I was a simple guy. For the longest time I was cool with just cheese pizza. So as much as I could I would chow down on that while everyone else ate pepperoni like all the rest of the normies would. I would sometimes switch it up and go meat lovers and remove all the pepperoni. I liked pepperoni but just not with my pizza. And to keep my grandmother happy we of course had to have at least one salad.
The other Pizza Buffet of note was always Cici's Pizza. Now not as popular where CiCi's took it to the next level was the pasta and desserts like Cinnamon rolls. At Cici's the pizza was a lot smaller in size so it was easier to have competitions with each other. The record currently held by my friend Mark was 13 slices of pizza. He got really sick but he is still the champion nonetheless. Here are the other fun places I miss in Fayetteville.
Shoney's
Now the burgers and milkshakes were always top-tier. But the best breakfast we always looked forward too was at Shoney's. The pancakes were everything.
Ryan's
Now our love for buffets was undisputed. For some reason though I can always remember the Macaroni and Cheese the most from Ryan's. This was the go to for After Church and we even had a few wedding receptions here.
Backyard Burgers
They had the burgers and the hotdogs. We used to walk to Backyard Burgers when we lived on Bunce. In hindsight, probably not the safest but hey we are here still. Now the thing I looked forward to most was the fries. I miss them.
