Ask DB: Should Your Partner Still Have ‘Trophies’ From Past Relationships?

Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions, and today’s question is from Ally from Gray's Creek: "My boyfriend and I just moved in together last weekend. I was unpacking yesterday when I found his ‘trophies’. If you don't know what that means, it means things he's kept from other women like bras, underwear and other things I can't mention. I laid his trophies out on the kitchen table so he would be sure to see them when he got home from work. He was shocked that I found them. I told him he needs to get rid of them. He looked confused. He says he doesn't want to get rid of his trophies because they are a part of his past. He says it's not a big deal and the same thing as keeping pictures of your exes. I disagree. I think trophies are much different than pictures. He said I'm insecure. Should guys be allowed to keep their trophies? Have I overstepped my bounds in telling him to get rid of his trophies?" Here’s DB’s Advice: This is giving...Dahmer. Ally, let's go ahead and get the number one thing you should realize out the way...This is serial killer vibes. Keeping other women's undergarments is a huge red flag. And one of our other Bounce Listeners brought up a big point. Do the other women know he kept that stuff? Gross behavior. Big thing is you need to run for the hills. Move back to whatever home you had. You have not overstepped. And no guy should be allowed to keep these things. I got a sneaking suspicion though you might stay in this relationship though. So I will prepare an alternate take. You should replace the old trophies with your own trophies. Take some of your undergarments and give it to him. That way you are the only trophy he needs. I don't think this will really work because clearly he wants those things. So just run...RUN. DB’s Down in the DM is a weekly segment on Monday’s on The Bounce Morning Rollout with Minda and DB on 107.7 The Bounce. Ask your questions by texting the studio line at 910-323-5477 anytime, and you might be featured. (Make sure to let us know in your text that you’re asking for advice. You’d be surprised by some of the weird questions we get randomly.)