Ask DB: Is Keeping a Cushy Job Worth It If Your Boss is Toxic?
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions, and today’s question is from Briana in Fayetteville who has the job of her dreams but there seems to be one issue that could ruin it :
“I’m tired of going job to job. I finally found one that pays well, is close to home, an it has potential for me to grow with the company. I like the company and my coworkers but my boss is very toxic. She manipulates and gas lights and her attitude changes from day to day. It is draining!! So how can I learn to get through work without letting her affect me? How do I learn to ignore her behaviors and make this job work”
Here’s DB’s Advice:
Business and personal need to be separate, easier said then done right? I know but this is what you need to do to survive. I used to be a quiet kid with my first real adult job at a hospital. I’ve always been told I’m a good listener with kind eyes (makes sense why I give advice now). One time there was a coworker who came to complain to me about everything while I was with a patient I was taking downstairs (I used to work as a Patient Transporter at a hospital aka orderly in the movies). I later got called into an office because the patient complained that if I didn’t like my job I don’t need to be there. Young 19 year old Dashawn plead his case and got let off with a warning. A woman I worked with who basically was like my work mom told me these words that I would never forget “Son, people will laugh with you in your face be the first ones trying to cut your throat. They aren’t gonna pay your bills if you lose your job so always focus on you. You can only control your emotions with people and how you react to the situations. It’s difficult but over the years it has helped me navigate all the different work personalities one can experience. It’s not perfect but cover your butt. Document everything with emails when speaking official work business and refer to that when stories change. Do not involve yourself in situations that don’t have anything to do with you or stall your work to be involved with gossip. Now we are human, we connect with others but again focus on doing what you must to keep your job top priority. Now also talk to your co-workers, find like minded individuals and understand how they navigate your boss. If it starts affecting your work be prepared to leave for your own sanity. It may not seem like you can’t find better but you can and will. It’s all a matter of how it feels. Pay attention to the flags and you can succeed.
DB’s Down in the DM is a weekly segment on Monday’s on The Bounce Morning Rollout with Minda and DB on 107.7 The Bounce. Ask your questions by texting the studio line at 910-323-5477 anytime, and you might be featured. (Make sure to let us know in your text that you’re asking for advice. You’d be surprised by some of the weird questions we get randomly.)
