Ask DB: Is Writing Dating Conversations With AI OK?
Welcome to DB’s Down in the DM, our weekly feature, where you, humble listeners and readers, get to ask 107.7 The Bounce’s advice guru your difficult questions. Today’s question is from a Comic Nerd who has fallen for a Man though his words weren’t his!
I love nerds because I am a comic book nerd myself. I met my boyfriend Richard on a dating app. We have been dating for several months. He too is a nerd and works in IT just like me. We recently had our first big fight. We got tipsy before he told me that he used AI to write almost all of the romantic stuff he sent me while he was courting me on the dating app. Those weren’t even his true words, but rather those of a bot. I feel very deceived and am hurt. I also feel like a fool because I got goosebumps from something that isn’t even real. My best friend says I should dump Richard for lying. My sister says I need to get over it and move on with the relationship because I’m making a mountain out of a molehill. How can I even trust Richard if he’s lied and isn’t even honest about his true feelings. What should I do? Is it a big deal that artificial intelligence did the talking for Richard?
I’m a nerd. There is no hiding it. I grew up a massive fan of the Power Rangers and Professional Wrestling among many things. Action Figures and superhero movies I spent a lot of money on. I know the complete history of Tommy becoming the Green Ranger but what a girl might like was lost to me for a long time. Not really the biggest dater in high school especially. I dated my ex from high school into my 20s (10 plus years) and didn’t get to truly experience the dating pool until then and it was a completely new world. Tried every tip and trick you could find on the internet and still didn’t know what was the right mode that worked for me so I can truly understand being lost on what to do when you are not used to it. We buy cards that represent our feelings all the time and it’s ok so using A.I. to do it doesn’t sound out of the ordinary. When you like someone a lot but aren’t suave, you need some assistance to put this into words so he turned to a computer. Talk more directly and get to the core of who he is. Trust and pay attention to his actions. I think people have a hard time understanding that men aren’t as complicated to understand. When a man likes someone there is no question. Words can be fake clearly but the sign is right in front of you so focus on what’s real. The eyes don’t lie.
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